Choose your battles - teaching good behaviour

Like every parent, I face daily battles with my children to get them to display good behaviour. Regular skirmishes include sitting at the table, eating vegetables, putting on jumpers and coats, and going to bed on time.

 

My son who has just turned 2 is transitioning out of having a midday nap. So he often falls asleep at 3 or 4pm and then we cant get him to sleep at bedtime.

 



It can be really challenging to be consistent in offering discipline. Ensuring a consistent routine takes care of most of the food and sleep issues (easier said than done!) but what about behaviour to others? Our 4 year old daughter can sometimes shout or speak in an inappropriate tone of voice, but she is most likely learning that from the way we talk to her. My husband and I are trying to practice speaking more calmly and giving the consistent punishment of a 'time out' rather than shouting or being too cross with her.

We are trying to use the language of the virtues in order to explain what kind of behaviour we would like to see. For example saying 'You need to use your patience at the moment' or 'Please show kindness to your brother'.

Most of the time I feel like I'm totally overwhelmed and incoherent as a mother, but I hope that's a sign that I'm trying my best!

I'd love to hear your stories of parenting challenges and victories. Thanks for reading :-)